tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4612066301163723416.post6622480969958629772..comments2023-06-02T02:59:29.426-07:00Comments on Journey to Joy: Overcoming the Judgment of othersTimberwolf123http://www.blogger.com/profile/09164604176090216229noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4612066301163723416.post-43917728927463916292010-03-07T04:58:20.384-08:002010-03-07T04:58:20.384-08:00So many good points, here, Bill. Yes, every critic...So many good points, here, Bill. Yes, every criticism deserves to be looked at for learning purposes. That's what I <i>aspire</i> to do in those cases. It is good if the reflection can come before the reaction! That tones my reaction down. I've had a lifetime of criticism and unsolicited advice. Don't know why, just my lot I suppose. (Maybe because I'm humble and have a baby face.)I don't often get hurt by it anymore, so I just point out to the offender that they seem to not care if they hurt me. It usually shocks the offender-takes the wind out of their sails, so to speak. One response I use regularly is, "I can see that you don't think I know what I am doing." It's possible that people just say things without realizing what they are <i>really saying</i>. I agree with Aine, too. People seem to focus on their own weaknesses in other people. What a great post, Dear Friend. You always get us thinking.Canynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00682670681520202582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4612066301163723416.post-39285742518680094792010-03-05T16:21:07.091-08:002010-03-05T16:21:07.091-08:00One of the most important things a preacher ever s...One of the most important things a preacher ever said to me was, "Your opinion of me is none of my business." [It was in a Sunday school class meeting and our church was in the throws of internal strife caused by the proverbial "split" in the parish. Half of our congregation supported the pastor and half wanted him gone.] <br />So, it was in that context that he helped us realize that what other people think of us isn't so important, especially if they are wrong. I've thought about this a lot and tried to employ that attitude when confronted with what amounts to disrespect.<br />Some people aren't going to change their opinion no matter what, so why worry about it. BTW, Bob and I supported him.FCEtierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14199098303138353894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4612066301163723416.post-2579118465474183822010-03-05T00:31:30.645-08:002010-03-05T00:31:30.645-08:00In my experience, there is usually irony in those ...In my experience, there is usually irony in those who are the most judgmental,in that they tend to be the worst offenders of what it is they are being judgmental about, they project onto others what it is they are most guilty of themselves.<br /><br />AineAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4612066301163723416.post-44383309450816005912010-03-04T22:34:48.996-08:002010-03-04T22:34:48.996-08:00Bill, I agree it's requires going beyond one&#...Bill, I agree it's requires going beyond one's ego when you are judged and especially, when it is untrue. I have encountered it a number of times and have mostly gone defensive, in some cases, because of some truth behind those words and in many others, a hurt ego. However, with practice, I'm sure I will deal better when in such a situation again.<br />Your writings truly help me to reflect on my own behaviour! Thank you so much Bill!Sweetnesshttp://my-moments-my-life.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4612066301163723416.post-17210576565160397522010-03-04T13:47:58.074-08:002010-03-04T13:47:58.074-08:00There are many aspects of this and it isn´t always...There are many aspects of this and it isn´t always so simple.If your conscience is pure and you shouldn´t have a bad either one can ask what motive the other person has.If the motive is right you should listen slightly, but if the motive is wrong, you should let it be, that is my opinion.Examine our heart, yes, but also check out the motives in the situation.And in fact, the truth when it is the truth use to set people free and not enslave even more and not at all put one more burden on them.La Cronahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16651489727415343359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4612066301163723416.post-63266836488779539992010-03-04T12:52:15.722-08:002010-03-04T12:52:15.722-08:00I agree that you should always look within before ...I agree that you should always look within before you look outside to try & understand something but there are times when someone is clearly judge by another & even if you're good with who you are it can hurt. Moving beyond the EGO & trying to learn from the experience is always the best in my opinion.<br /><br />Hugs,<br /><br />BillTimberwolf123https://www.blogger.com/profile/09164604176090216229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4612066301163723416.post-86133760751916396362010-03-04T08:59:49.075-08:002010-03-04T08:59:49.075-08:00In my world, we call this over-personalizing what ...In my world, we call this over-personalizing what is being said to us (hence causing a feeling of feeling judged). We must examine ourselves where our own truths about our sould are and believe it. Once we believe what we are and stand firm on that, that feeling of being judged will most likely disappear. This is the hardest thing to do and for the long haul. We let ourselves and our soul care sag some...and we take a step backward. The challenge is to keep up with ourselves and our truths, know when to hold ourselves accountable so when others TRY to do the same, we can peacefully say, "You know... I will consider that. Thanks for telling me so." Nicely done!M. Gray, Psy ABD, Certified Domestic Counselorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02631129556998729894noreply@blogger.com