I've always had one big issue in my life. This issue has at times lead me to take detours in my life away from my true path. The issue I'm talking about is when push comes to shove I give into others & neglect myself.
I have learned over the years that I need to be first. This was a very difficult lesson for me because I always put others first. You see I've always loved people & if you are apart of my life you're a friend. I believe in friendship & to me it means something to be a friend. I know in this day & age that it's a casual thing to say, especially on-line. But to me its always meant something & I don't use it casually. When you're my friend you're important to me.
So over the years I would do whatever I could to help my friends & many times I would sacrifice what I wanted to do, just to help my friends. I've learned that although this is a wonderful thing, it's not the way to lead your life. In order to give of yourself you have to have something to give & if you always sacrifice what you want in life you'll never have as much to give as when you're living the life you should.
I have learned to take time in my life. I have learned to listen to my soul (true self) & I have learned to put myself first. Because of this, my life has blossomed beyond what I could imagine. I've been living my life in joy for a longtime now & I believe it's because I've learned to put myself first. I still help many people in my life, this act of giving is woven into the fabric of my life & giving to others doesn't have to be exclusive of taking care of yourself. In fact they work in perfect concert with one another when you truly take the time to know who you are & what you want you have more to give to others.
Think of it this way; If you are a glass of water filled to the brim & you continue to give a drink to everyone in your life.....sooner or later there won't be any water left to give. Whereas if you replenish the water every time you give a drink, your glass is always filled!!
When your life gets busy or when you have to make important decisions; these are the times you need to be sure to take care of yourself first. Start a daily practice now of checking with your true self (Soul). Realize what you need & where you want to go. Promise yourself, even in tough times, to always put yourself first!
It's still not always easy for me. I watch for signs of backsliding. I know that it's the best way to live my life & my life has better because of it. Take time today & refill your glass!!
Till tomorrow,
Bill
PS Still looking for guest bloggers for "Guest Blog Wednesday" if you're interested drop me an email at: Timberwolf12345@gmail.com
Quote of the day:"Take time to fill yourself up & you'll always have enough to give to others. By being true to yourself first you'll find a more joyful life!"
6 comments:
That's one thing, honestly, I haven't had a real problem with. I'm me and that is IT. If people cannot handle that, then it's not my problem.
I'm not one to run with the crowd or be in the clique.
Thanks for stopping by Sweetie. My point wasn't changing for people my point was sacrificing yourself for others. I've always been who I am I just needed to learn to put myself first.
Hugs,
Bill
Hello Bill, I am coming to you via the Authentic Bloggers FB group. I could not agree with you more on your points about friendship. Also, being one who puts others ahead of myself, I too have learned that it is vitally important to put myself first. We cannot fully give to others if we do not take care of ourselves first. It's kind of like that saying "before you can love someone you must first love yourself". I am now following your blog and look forward to reading more as you share your journey.
Thanks Mitzi, I appreciate your comments & your stopping by. AB is a great group I've been involved with it from the beginning. I hope can get back to posting more there, life has been very busy!!
Look forward to seeing you around!
Hugs,
Bill
Before I can take of others be it friends or family I have to take of myself. I have learnt this the hard way. Now I can do this and I will say this.... My friendships and relationships have become stronger and happier.
I know exactly what you're talking about. I always tend to put others first as well & often times forget my own needs. Part of my issue is the fact that I have a hard time saying no to people because I don't want to disappoint them. But I've been working on all that & trying to take care of myself so that I'm better able to take care/help others.
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