I've always been a person who believes that God/universe has a sense of humor. The reason I bring this up now is that to me one of the most interesting/funny things that happens in life is the reflection of things you need to learn back at you. Some people become very annoyed by this process but I've always tried to find some humor in it because God/universe will continue to bring this lesson up to you until you learn it & move past it.
There several parts to the idea of reflection, I will try & give an example of each one. The first example, to me, is the people you meet. Have you ever wondered why a person in the office or neighborhood or church drives you crazy? They may have never even done anything to get you upset but there's something about them that you just don't like & you don't know why. Most of the time this is because of reflection. This person exhibits a quality of yourself that you don't like very much or are trying to work on, for example you tend to be a quiet person who wants to be more social & the person in the office that annoys you is loud & very social. This isn't an easy lesson & it took me a long time to try & look deeper into why I didn't like a certain person. But for me, I always try to come from the point of "what can I learn from this relationship" everyone we meet in our life is there for a reason & sometimes it's because of the idea of "reflection". To learn the things about ourselves that we have to forgive, work on or move through.
The second way this works is a little more direct. You have a problem with anger & you know you do but you can't seem to get it under control. Well, God/universe will throw situations at you in your life that will cause you to get angry. This may upset you, understandably, but instead you should be again looking at "what I can learn from this" . That's why I believe that God/universe has a sense of humor....not always a good one but all He knows is to help you to be a better person! If the same type of situation keeps reoccurring in your life look at what you need to learn, change or grow through to lead a more joyful/positive life.
Finally, although this isn't truly "reflection" it's worthy of mentioning here. God/universe doesn't understand "no" all the universe knows is to provide what we need. So if you keep repeating that I "don't have enough money" God/universe will give you more of not having enough money because that's what you asked for. This is a very complex final point & it takes a while to wrap your head around it but to use the example above you should say "I have all the money I need" & God/universe will continue to provide you "all the money you need". This is especially true with your gratefuls & visions board, don't think about lack, think instead about having everything you need.
Thoughts can change the world, watch what you think & try & learn from everyone that comes into your life especially if it's someone that annoys you. Look deep inside & see what's being reflected back.
Till tomorrow,
Bill
Quote of the day "Love the person you see in the mirror & learn from every person that enters your life. Love life & love yourself"
Monday, July 27, 2009
Friday, July 24, 2009
Emotional Attachment
Yesterday we delved into one of the biggest obstacles I've had to overcome in my life, my Father. What I learned from the experience & the process that I went through to remove this baggage from my life is called "emotional attachment".
What is emotional attachment, for me, the easiest way to explain it is this; have you ever wondered why a song brings certain feelings to you or a movie or a picture. The reason we instantly fall into an emotional state when we hear a song or see movie or picture is because we attached an emotion with them the 1st time we experienced the song, movie or photo. This emotion can be good or bad but we save it in our memory & we always go back to it, that's the way the mind works.
So, if we expand this idea to events in our life it's easy to see how we can fall into old patterns quickly. The proof of this to me, coming from a big family, is that each of my sisters can recite a event that happen when we were young but because it wasn't an important event for all of us, some of us don't remember anything about it. Yet the one reciting the story can give you every detail still like they were living through it again right now.
The problem with this is that if we've had difficult things happen to us in our lives, like my Dad saying "You could have done better". We attach emotions to anything similar that reminds us of those words & instantly you can be pulled down to a very bad place. It works kind of like this for me; 20 years ago I was fired from a job, I had no idea it was going to happen in fact I did a lot of good things for this place but in my head rather then thinking about the good I did, I went immediately to "I'm not good enough"....."I can never be good enough". Thus what followed was weeks of trying to get out of this depression that was caused by this "old emotion" which really didn't have to do with the job situation.
The way we get past this is to recognize the emotional attachment & choose a different reaction. This takes work but the rewards are great because just as the mind remembers the the original event once we re-attach the event to something different the mind will remember the new feeling. This change in thought is what will help us get past anything that has happened to us in our past. If we move our "old" destructive thoughts to "new" positive/joyful thoughts we can truly change our lives.
I hope this helps & I hope you all have a great weekend.
Till Monday,
Bill
Quote of the day "Find an old thought or feeling, change it to a joyful new thought & you'll never fear the past, again."
What is emotional attachment, for me, the easiest way to explain it is this; have you ever wondered why a song brings certain feelings to you or a movie or a picture. The reason we instantly fall into an emotional state when we hear a song or see movie or picture is because we attached an emotion with them the 1st time we experienced the song, movie or photo. This emotion can be good or bad but we save it in our memory & we always go back to it, that's the way the mind works.
So, if we expand this idea to events in our life it's easy to see how we can fall into old patterns quickly. The proof of this to me, coming from a big family, is that each of my sisters can recite a event that happen when we were young but because it wasn't an important event for all of us, some of us don't remember anything about it. Yet the one reciting the story can give you every detail still like they were living through it again right now.
The problem with this is that if we've had difficult things happen to us in our lives, like my Dad saying "You could have done better". We attach emotions to anything similar that reminds us of those words & instantly you can be pulled down to a very bad place. It works kind of like this for me; 20 years ago I was fired from a job, I had no idea it was going to happen in fact I did a lot of good things for this place but in my head rather then thinking about the good I did, I went immediately to "I'm not good enough"....."I can never be good enough". Thus what followed was weeks of trying to get out of this depression that was caused by this "old emotion" which really didn't have to do with the job situation.
The way we get past this is to recognize the emotional attachment & choose a different reaction. This takes work but the rewards are great because just as the mind remembers the the original event once we re-attach the event to something different the mind will remember the new feeling. This change in thought is what will help us get past anything that has happened to us in our past. If we move our "old" destructive thoughts to "new" positive/joyful thoughts we can truly change our lives.
I hope this helps & I hope you all have a great weekend.
Till Monday,
Bill
Quote of the day "Find an old thought or feeling, change it to a joyful new thought & you'll never fear the past, again."
Thursday, July 23, 2009
Love Yourself
The response to yesterday's blog was amazing & several of you commented to me that being quiet is something that's hard for you or something you don't like to do. Because of that I wanted to talk about the struggles I had with being quiet when I was younger. To me one of the main reasons people are afraid or don't like to be quiet is because they don't like themselves very much, I know that was true for me.
It's important to understand that to give love you need to have love to give & that truly begins with loving yourself & being comfortable with who you are. For me it took many years to get there, I grew up in a family of 5, I have 4 sisters & I'm in the middle of them. A lot of pressure was put on me by my Dad because I was the only boy & he wanted me to succeed. The problem was he wanted it so much that I could never do enough to please him. I was almost a straight A student, finished in the top 10 in graduating class in HS, was a pretty good athlete, involved in student government, chess team, choir & all the school plays. But it was never enough for him & therefore I never truly knew who I was or what I really wanted in life. I stumbled through life until I was in my mid 30's that's when my change began.
I was fortunate to meet Heidi who was very supportive of the me changing some of the things I didn't like about myself. As I mentioned before the change started for me with reading "The Return of Merlin" by Deepak Chopra. He is still one of my favorite authors & I own 8-10 of his books. I've also enjoyed Julie Cameron, James Redfield, Neal Donald Walsch, Gary Zukav & Marianne Williamson to name way too many....LOL
Anyway, my change took time & I didn't really get past my fear of quiet until my Dad's death & the help from my life coach Susie Wise-Peterson. What I learned is that you have to forgive yourself for the things that have happen in your life. As I've mentioned before the past is the past & you can't change it no matter how hard you try. But, if you acknowledge it, forgive yourself or the other person or both & let the pain go you can move past it. I've discovered that everything in your head no matter how bad, can be change by the steps I just outlined. It's in that change of thought that you can be reborn to a more joyful/positive life.
Once I resolved the issues with my Dad, I actually loved being by myself & I enjoy taking time to be quiet. I know the only way for me to continue to grow is to love myself so I can share that love with the world. The change in me was/is dramatic & I know it can happen for you as well. Continue with me on this "Journey to Joy".
Till tomorrow,
Bill
Quote of the Day "Love yourself first, it's the only way to be able to share your love with the world."
It's important to understand that to give love you need to have love to give & that truly begins with loving yourself & being comfortable with who you are. For me it took many years to get there, I grew up in a family of 5, I have 4 sisters & I'm in the middle of them. A lot of pressure was put on me by my Dad because I was the only boy & he wanted me to succeed. The problem was he wanted it so much that I could never do enough to please him. I was almost a straight A student, finished in the top 10 in graduating class in HS, was a pretty good athlete, involved in student government, chess team, choir & all the school plays. But it was never enough for him & therefore I never truly knew who I was or what I really wanted in life. I stumbled through life until I was in my mid 30's that's when my change began.
I was fortunate to meet Heidi who was very supportive of the me changing some of the things I didn't like about myself. As I mentioned before the change started for me with reading "The Return of Merlin" by Deepak Chopra. He is still one of my favorite authors & I own 8-10 of his books. I've also enjoyed Julie Cameron, James Redfield, Neal Donald Walsch, Gary Zukav & Marianne Williamson to name way too many....LOL
Anyway, my change took time & I didn't really get past my fear of quiet until my Dad's death & the help from my life coach Susie Wise-Peterson. What I learned is that you have to forgive yourself for the things that have happen in your life. As I've mentioned before the past is the past & you can't change it no matter how hard you try. But, if you acknowledge it, forgive yourself or the other person or both & let the pain go you can move past it. I've discovered that everything in your head no matter how bad, can be change by the steps I just outlined. It's in that change of thought that you can be reborn to a more joyful/positive life.
Once I resolved the issues with my Dad, I actually loved being by myself & I enjoy taking time to be quiet. I know the only way for me to continue to grow is to love myself so I can share that love with the world. The change in me was/is dramatic & I know it can happen for you as well. Continue with me on this "Journey to Joy".
Till tomorrow,
Bill
Quote of the Day "Love yourself first, it's the only way to be able to share your love with the world."
Wednesday, July 22, 2009
Silence
Most of the topics we talked about over the past month have been very active ways at starting the change in your life to a more joyful/positive life. I've always considered myself a person of action so that's the easiest way for me to start. But, there's another very important tool to remember & that is silence! Just being quiet, clearing your mind & listening to your soul is a great way to center yourself & remove all the noise around you.
I never been into meditation, I know it works wonders for some people but I haven't found a practice that works for me. I instead just be quiet, one of my favorite places to be quiet is in the Smokey's. Heidi & I try to go down there as often as we can & I love to sit out on a trail or just on the deck where we're staying & just take in the beauty around me. When I'm not there I envision being there when I take time for my quiet moments, because for me the beauty & quiet just fills me up.
The reason why silence is important is because it slows us down & helps us to refocus our energy. Life is lived in the pauses, it's the pauses that give life more definition. Like the the pauses between notes of music. Without the pauses all we are is action & movement. Life is made up of opposites without the bad we wouldn't know the good. I feel this is especially true with silence.
We all live such busy lives & it's hard to take time for yourself but as with morning gratefuls & your vision board please take time to just be silent. The peace you find in the quiet will lead forward to a more joyful/positive life.
Till tomorrow,
Bill
Quote of the day "Live in the moment because the pauses between breaths are what lead you to your next adventure. Every moment has meaning."
I never been into meditation, I know it works wonders for some people but I haven't found a practice that works for me. I instead just be quiet, one of my favorite places to be quiet is in the Smokey's. Heidi & I try to go down there as often as we can & I love to sit out on a trail or just on the deck where we're staying & just take in the beauty around me. When I'm not there I envision being there when I take time for my quiet moments, because for me the beauty & quiet just fills me up.
The reason why silence is important is because it slows us down & helps us to refocus our energy. Life is lived in the pauses, it's the pauses that give life more definition. Like the the pauses between notes of music. Without the pauses all we are is action & movement. Life is made up of opposites without the bad we wouldn't know the good. I feel this is especially true with silence.
We all live such busy lives & it's hard to take time for yourself but as with morning gratefuls & your vision board please take time to just be silent. The peace you find in the quiet will lead forward to a more joyful/positive life.
Till tomorrow,
Bill
Quote of the day "Live in the moment because the pauses between breaths are what lead you to your next adventure. Every moment has meaning."
Tuesday, July 21, 2009
Unlearn
To follow up on yesterday & the idea of looking at the world through a child's eyes. I wanted to talk a bit about the stuff we are taught as we grow older. There's a song from the musical "South Pacific" called "You've got to be carefully taught". Here are the lyrics:
You've got to be taught
To hate and fear,
You've got to be taught
From year to year,
It's got to be drummed
In your dear little ear
You've got to be carefully taught.
You've got to be taught to be afraid
Of people whose eyes are oddly made,
And people whose skin is a diff'rent shade,
You've got to be carefully taught.
You've got to be taught before it's too late,
Before you are six or seven or eight,
To hate all the people your relatives hate,
You've got to be carefully taught!
This song has always rung true to me because as I said yesterday a child looks at the world as a wonder. Everything about it is joyful, the discovery of new things is awesome.
So the challenge as we get older & as we try to return to that the childlike vision of the world is to "unlearn" all the things we have been taught. We have to work hard to let go of the negative vision we've been told of the world, as most of it isn't true. We are all connected and if we all make an effort to let go of the lies we've taught throughout our lives & return to the purity of a child we will be in a better world.
The final part of trying to return to being a child is to find time to play. Give yourself time as often as you can to rediscover the joy of playing. Whether it's a sport you like, a game you've always loved or doing something creative, make time to play & you'll fill your soul with joy. Resist the urge to say you can't make time for play. Remember small steps create new habits so if you make the time to play you'll continue to do it.
Let go of what you've been taught, belive that every moment is joyful.
Till tomorrow,
Bill
Quote of the day "Open your mind & unlearn the lies you've been taught in your life. Find joy in every moment, be a child."
Here's Mandy Patinkin singing "You've got to be carefully taught"Quote of the day "Find the beauty in everything in your life & your life will be more beautiful"
You've got to be taught
To hate and fear,
You've got to be taught
From year to year,
It's got to be drummed
In your dear little ear
You've got to be carefully taught.
You've got to be taught to be afraid
Of people whose eyes are oddly made,
And people whose skin is a diff'rent shade,
You've got to be carefully taught.
You've got to be taught before it's too late,
Before you are six or seven or eight,
To hate all the people your relatives hate,
You've got to be carefully taught!
This song has always rung true to me because as I said yesterday a child looks at the world as a wonder. Everything about it is joyful, the discovery of new things is awesome.
So the challenge as we get older & as we try to return to that the childlike vision of the world is to "unlearn" all the things we have been taught. We have to work hard to let go of the negative vision we've been told of the world, as most of it isn't true. We are all connected and if we all make an effort to let go of the lies we've taught throughout our lives & return to the purity of a child we will be in a better world.
The final part of trying to return to being a child is to find time to play. Give yourself time as often as you can to rediscover the joy of playing. Whether it's a sport you like, a game you've always loved or doing something creative, make time to play & you'll fill your soul with joy. Resist the urge to say you can't make time for play. Remember small steps create new habits so if you make the time to play you'll continue to do it.
Let go of what you've been taught, belive that every moment is joyful.
Till tomorrow,
Bill
Quote of the day "Open your mind & unlearn the lies you've been taught in your life. Find joy in every moment, be a child."
Here's Mandy Patinkin singing "You've got to be carefully taught"Quote of the day "Find the beauty in everything in your life & your life will be more beautiful"
Monday, July 20, 2009
Beauty
So I know what you're thinking, What does beauty have to do with living a more joyful/positive life? Well to me, beauty has to do with becoming more aware of everything in your life. We all remember the old saying "Stop & smell the roses", well as part of our opening up & being grateful in our lives, is finding the beauty in everything around us.
It can be as simple as appreciating that rose in your garden or on your walk from you car to the office. Or it can be as complex as finding the beauty in each & every person you meet. Find the beauty in everything & the whole world will feel more beautiful. As with everything else we've discussed this shift will have a ripple effect in your life. Before you know it everything in your life will become more beautiful.
I know this sounds simple & in a lot of ways it can be simple but the truth is looking at things from a different perspective is an amazing way to grow. I like to think about it as seeing the world through the eyes of a child. Everything in a child's eyes is full of wonder & that joy is the true appreciation for the joy in their life.
Getting back to the wonder of the world through a child's eyes & shedding the cynical look we develop as an adult will truly change your life & bring more joy to you.
I've been on a music kick & the song that reveals this truth the most to me is "It's a wonderful world" by Louis Armstrong, enjoy it at the bottom.
Lastly, my original goal for this blog was for it to become more interactive then it has been. If there's something that's important to you that you'd like me to write about, please feel free to leave a comment here or @ me on twitter @timberwolf123.
Have a great Monday,
Bill
Quote of the day "Find the beauty in everything in your life & your life will be more beautiful"
It can be as simple as appreciating that rose in your garden or on your walk from you car to the office. Or it can be as complex as finding the beauty in each & every person you meet. Find the beauty in everything & the whole world will feel more beautiful. As with everything else we've discussed this shift will have a ripple effect in your life. Before you know it everything in your life will become more beautiful.
I know this sounds simple & in a lot of ways it can be simple but the truth is looking at things from a different perspective is an amazing way to grow. I like to think about it as seeing the world through the eyes of a child. Everything in a child's eyes is full of wonder & that joy is the true appreciation for the joy in their life.
Getting back to the wonder of the world through a child's eyes & shedding the cynical look we develop as an adult will truly change your life & bring more joy to you.
I've been on a music kick & the song that reveals this truth the most to me is "It's a wonderful world" by Louis Armstrong, enjoy it at the bottom.
Lastly, my original goal for this blog was for it to become more interactive then it has been. If there's something that's important to you that you'd like me to write about, please feel free to leave a comment here or @ me on twitter @timberwolf123.
Have a great Monday,
Bill
Quote of the day "Find the beauty in everything in your life & your life will be more beautiful"
Friday, July 17, 2009
Time
Many of you have asked me how I decide what I'm going to write everyday. The truth is that I try to stay open & let things come to me. Sometimes, like this morning, I wake up with the idea in my head.
So the title of today's blog is "Time" & I think it's an important thing to talk about. Once you start to practice the things we've talked about, you need to understand that although these practice will definitely improve your life. That with life has it's own flow. You will still have good times & bad times just as there are different seasons. These practices will make the fallow times easier but the fallow times will still be there. Why is this? Because to appreciate the best, we have to understand the bad. The song that always said this the best to me (& the one I woke with in my head this morning) is The Byrds "Turn, Turn, Turn" Here are the lyrics:
To everything (turn, turn, turn)
There is a season (turn, turn, turn)
And a time for every purpose, under heaven
A time to be born, a time to die
A time to plant, a time to reap
A time to kill, a time to heal
A time to laugh, a time to weep
To everything (turn, turn, turn)
There is a season (turn, turn, turn)
And a time for every purpose, under heaven
A time to build up,a time to break down
A time to dance, a time to mourn
A time to cast away stones, a time to gather stones together
To everything (turn, turn, turn)
There is a season (turn, turn, turn)
And a time for every purpose, under heaven
A time of love, a time of hate
A time of war, a time of peace
A time you may embrace, a time to refrain from embracing
To everything (turn, turn, turn)
There is a season (turn, turn, turn)
And a time for every purpose, under heaven
A time to gain, a time to lose
A time to rend, a time to sew
A time to love, a time to hate
A time for peace, I swear its not too late
There is no magical cure to make life always be the best. But the more you work on the practices we've discussed the lows will be less & the highs will be higher. It's an amazing thing to be connected to God/universe & the feeling you get being in the flow is incredible. Continue your work and I'll be here to help.
Have a great weekend, see you Monday,
Bill
Quote of the day "Life is full of mystery, enjoy the good & the bad for it's the bad times that make us appreciate the good"
THE BYRDS "TURN, TURN, TURN"
So the title of today's blog is "Time" & I think it's an important thing to talk about. Once you start to practice the things we've talked about, you need to understand that although these practice will definitely improve your life. That with life has it's own flow. You will still have good times & bad times just as there are different seasons. These practices will make the fallow times easier but the fallow times will still be there. Why is this? Because to appreciate the best, we have to understand the bad. The song that always said this the best to me (& the one I woke with in my head this morning) is The Byrds "Turn, Turn, Turn" Here are the lyrics:
To everything (turn, turn, turn)
There is a season (turn, turn, turn)
And a time for every purpose, under heaven
A time to be born, a time to die
A time to plant, a time to reap
A time to kill, a time to heal
A time to laugh, a time to weep
To everything (turn, turn, turn)
There is a season (turn, turn, turn)
And a time for every purpose, under heaven
A time to build up,a time to break down
A time to dance, a time to mourn
A time to cast away stones, a time to gather stones together
To everything (turn, turn, turn)
There is a season (turn, turn, turn)
And a time for every purpose, under heaven
A time of love, a time of hate
A time of war, a time of peace
A time you may embrace, a time to refrain from embracing
To everything (turn, turn, turn)
There is a season (turn, turn, turn)
And a time for every purpose, under heaven
A time to gain, a time to lose
A time to rend, a time to sew
A time to love, a time to hate
A time for peace, I swear its not too late
There is no magical cure to make life always be the best. But the more you work on the practices we've discussed the lows will be less & the highs will be higher. It's an amazing thing to be connected to God/universe & the feeling you get being in the flow is incredible. Continue your work and I'll be here to help.
Have a great weekend, see you Monday,
Bill
Quote of the day "Life is full of mystery, enjoy the good & the bad for it's the bad times that make us appreciate the good"
THE BYRDS "TURN, TURN, TURN"
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