Relationships can be an amazing addition to your quest for a more joyful life. The love you discover in another person can lift you to new heights. The drawback is that instead of having love within yourself to give to someone else we expect the other person to give us love to fill us up. Love is truly the answer for everyone but we need to begin with loving ourselves first. Without love of yourself any relationship will run into problems down the road. Discover the love we all have inside of us & you'll have more love in your life then you can imagine.
On your journey to self discovery the support of a partner can help you overcome the demons of the past but there are a few things to be careful of. I unfortunately discovered these the hard way in the past.
1. Change - although you may be going through a great deal of change individually in your journey, you can't change your partner. Change is a personal choice & even when you've discovered things in your journey that really help you. Your partner may not be helped by the same discoveries or just simply may not want to change at all.
2. Control - When we feel like we have so many "balls" up in the air & we're trying to deal with all of them. One of the first things we try to do is to take control over everything in our lives to be able to handle it better. The truth is that we can't control anything in our life except for ourselves & our reaction to whatever happens. This is a hard lesson for some people. Observe life & listen to the messages that God/universe is sending you don't try & "make" things happen.
3. Rescue - When we are injured ourselves we look for someone to be partnered with that we feel we can rescue. It makes us feel better about who we are to be able help someone else overcome their demons. The truth is that as in #1 we can't "will" someone better & we can't hurt deeply enough to remove the pain from someone else. If you want to help others (which is a great thing to do) volunteer for organizations & give freely of yourself to causes.
4. Forgiveness - The greatest gift you have to give in a relationship is forgiveness. Remember the reason why you feel in love with person & understand that we are all human & therefore imperfect. Forgive with all your heart & let go of the mistakes your partner has made.
Remember that we are all on our own journey & together we are always stronger then on our own. Discover the beauty of the people in our life & cherish each relationship you have. As I've said in the past; every person that enters our life is there for a reason, discover that reason & the universe will unfold before you. Love with all your heart & live a more joyful life.
Till Monday...enjoy your weekend,
Bill
Quote of the day: "A relationship can be a beautiful way to discover a more joyful life."
8 comments:
You're right, Bill. We need to love ourselves first, only then can we give of ourselves to others. And controlling everything is just not possible -- it's an illusion we like to live in. Forgiveness makes us better people ... when we forgive someone we also acknowledge our own shortcomings ... makes us humble. Thank you for this post.
You've done it once again...very enlightening! God bless Bill!
These are excellent points, you are so right. So much of what makes a relationship work is the strength of the individual partners.
Thanks everyone I appreciate your comments & your support. Just trying to help everyone discover the love they already have!!
Hugs,
Bill
Great thoughts. I'm forwarding this to someone special. We both can benefit from this. :)
Bill, it's my first visit to your blog and was just reading through. I loved this article. In the span of 4 years into my relationship, I have literally come to understand all the points that you have mentioned. A very enlightening article indeed! Really wish to read more from you!
Thanks for stopping by Sweetness. I'm glad you enjoyed the blog. I look forward to hearing more from you in the future.
Hugs,
Bill
Wonderful post, Bill. I could say a lot about this, but it would take too long...
You are as wise as you are fortunate. It's one thing to know what you have said, quite another to live it. Bless you, Dear Friend.
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