Dealing with Fear

One of the most difficult & complex things we can deal with in our lives is fear.  I wrote previously about dealing with the fear of the unknown.  With that fear it's a battle with yourself of being more open & accepting.  Most of what we imagine is going to happen in our life will never happen, so if we continue to stay open & accepting we will move through most of our imagined fear to a better life.

What about all of our other fears?  What is truly holding you back in your life?  This is more complex. To understand the basis of fear can be difficult & to move past the fears we have can be very hard.  I am not a doctor & I don't pretend to have all the answer on this issue.  I personally have very few fears in my life I've always been able to rationalize my way through anything that would hold me back from achieving a better life. Although for a longtime I was afraid of not being good enough (if your dealing with this look back at the blog I wrote on it).

So what is fear?  Fear is an irrational reaction to an event or a thing in our life.  I say irrational because most fear that is holding us back is something we've created & is based on the fear of the unknown.  What I mean by this is that we create the emotional reaction to something that we perceive as being fearful without really knowing why we should be afraid of it.  Now I'm not talking about life & death situations, in those there is a fear that is very rational & has a true basis in fact.  What I'm talking about is the fears we've created in our lives.  Most of these fears are connected to an emotional event at sometime in our lives.  I have written before about moving through these old emotion connections.  To me fear is the same thing.

We know now that the brain can be rewired no matter how deep the connections are to an event or an emotional response.  So, if this is true, what we need to do is take the time to understand the basis of the fear.  Why are you afraid of dogs?  Maybe when you were 2 years old a dog bit you or barked very loudly in your face.  Then this "fear" was reinforced by your parents saying over & over again..."oh she's afraid of dogs don't bring that dog over here" or they would pull you away every time you got close to dogs.  This is how a fear is created...through this repetition & the way to get past it is to re-pattern the reaction you have.

This is true regardless of the fear, if you can understand the basis of the fear & then re-associate the fear with good things you will rewire your brain & remove the fear from your life.

The bottom line is to live a more joyful/positive life you need to let go of the fears in your life.  You need to open your heart to joy & release the things that are holding you back, including your fears.

Till Monday, I hope you have a great weekend.

Bill

Quote of the day: "Release the fears you have in your life.  Open your heart to the joy you find in each moment."

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Being Tested

I've been asked a lot in recent months about how you stay positive & connected in times of great stress or when you're actually dealing with a crisis in your life.  It's never easy to go through difficult times in your life but there are two important things to always remember.  First, difficult times happen to everyone.  They are part of the natural flow of the universe.  In order for us to know joy we have to know some sorrow in our lives.  The important thing to remember is to always try & learn from your experience.  Sometimes the greatest growth comes through difficult times & in the end you may be a better person because of what you've had to deal with.  I know this first hand as I have been through a great deal of difficult times in my life but I have learned & grown from each situation & it's because of the things I've been through that I'm where I am now. 

The second thing to remember is that no storm last forever.  When you're going through the difficult situation in your life it truly feels like it will never end & things will never get better.  The truth is that it will, at some point things will improve & you'll be able to move on with your life.  It may not be the same life you had before the crisis but life will get better.

So how do I deal with these difficult times?  I wrote a blog about 5 months ago called "dealing with crisis" & I also wrote a blog several months ago about "dealing with fallow times".  Give them a read if you're dealing with a difficult times. 

The most important thing to remember is that the practices you put in place today are going to help you deal with these difficult times.  If you can stay positive & release the stress in your life, even in these difficult times, you will ease the effect of the difficult times on your life.  Remember to stay open to the signs the universe sends you even when times get rough.  

We all tend to close ourselves down when we're going through a difficult time.  It's a natural reaction because we don't feel we have the strength to deal with everything that's happening in our lives.  I suggest, you try to do just the opposite, stay open, take time to reconnect with the love inside of you, reconnect with your soul & rediscover your life's purpose.  Ask for help from God/universe or other people in your life that you trust.  Find the joy in the small things even if this joy only last for a short period of time.  Finally, realize that you are strong & you will make it through.

It's never easy to deal with difficult times in your life.  I hope this blog is able to help you in some way.

Till tomorrow,

Bill

Quote of the day: "By continuing your daily pratices to bring more joy into your life.  You will be more able to deal with the difficult times in your life."

My next video blog is now available on Youtube.  I hope you'll take a look I've called it "Love-letting go of excuses". http://bit.ly/52wJTw


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Music

Music the most universal connection to our true self.  Yes, it's true music is the easiest way for anyone to connect to their true self.  Yesterday we discussed Inspiration & how important it is to find your true inspiration.  Music is a great way to discover what inspires you.  Beyond that music is a way to get in touch with who you are.

Over the past several months we've talked about many issues that hold us back from discovering more joy in your life.  Many of you have asked me how to move beyond the issues you've had to deal with in your life & I've written many blogs on the various issues & how to let them go to find a more joyful life. Overall, to move beyond any of the issues that are holding you back in your life, you need to understand the underlying emotions that are still connected to  current  things happening  in your life.  What do I mean by this?  If every time someone raises there voice to you, you cower in the corner (or at least in your mind you do).  The way to move beyond this reaction is to understand the emotional connection you have to someone raising their voice.  Once you understand where this feeling comes from you can release the emotional attachment & reconnect that event (someone raising their voice) to different reaction.  The mind is a wonderful thing & it can relearn anything.  If you take the time to reconnect these emotions to a more positive reaction & you work on doing this over & over again.  You will replace the negative reaction with a more positive one.

So what does music have to do with this process.  Music is one of the few things that truly transcends time & space.  When you hear a song that has meaning to you, you are instantly transported to the time & place you first heard it.  In fact many times, without any effort, you can feel exactly the emotions you had at that time.  So, if you allow yourself to feel all the emotional connections in your life you are then able to let go of the emotions that hold you back in your life.

The self discovery that music can help you with can be an amazing journey.  Allow yourself to feel the way the music makes you feel.  Understand what the emotional connection is & through this process rediscover who you truly are.  By letting go of the emotions that are holding you back & rewiring them to a more positive/joyful connection in your daily life, you can have a more joyful life.

Till tomorrow,

Bill

Quote of the day: "Music can transcend time & space & lead you to true self discovery.  Allow music in your life & discover who you truly are."

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Inspiration

I wrote a blog a couple of months ago about motivation & I believe that many people get confused between motivation & inspiration.  To me motivation is an action, you get motivated to do something.  Many people, including me, need motivation to get through the day or motivation to start their day.  Motivation is an important part of everyone's life.

So what is inspiration?  Inspiration to me is the connection to your soul that leads you on to greater things.  Finding inspiration on a daily basis can be a challenge to anyone but in order to move ahead in your life, inspiration is what's needed. 

I've spoken many times in the past about how we all just walk through our lives on a daily basis.  I would go so far to say that many of us are sleep walking through our lives.  What I mean by this is that we are comfortable with where we are at & we're afraid to examine our life to move forward.  This comfort may seem wonderful but it will actually disconnect you from your soul & your true purpose in life.  The best way to continue to grow & stay connected is to push yourself into things beyond your comfort zone.

So how do we find our true inspiration?  I believe this is a difficult question because we all use different tools to motivate us & to find our inspiration.  Many people, including myself, can find inspiration in music, movies or books.  The themes that each of these vehicles present us can be a great way to connect to your heart & even to your soul. But, to truly find a deep meaningful inspiration we need to take these themes and internalize them.  We need to discover their true connection to our soul.  

So how do we do this?  For me, it's by taking the time to examine the way these tools truly make me feel.  I allow myself to experience the emotions attached to the themes I've experienced through listening, watching or reading.  Once I allow myself to feel these emotions I examine where the emotion is coming from & what attachment I have to that emotion.  Many times this involves looking at your past & trying to understand why you feel the way you do.  Once you understand why you feel the way you do, you can begin to understand what theme is truly connected to your soul.  This theme may have a basis in your past but it will lift you up beyond anything else.  This true inspiration can change throughout your life but generally stays within the same area of your life.

Allow yourself to examine your true inspirations & find the deepest connection to your soul.  These inspirations will lift you up to a more joyful life.

Till tomorrow,

Bill

Quote of the day: "Take time to deeply examine your life & find your true inspiration.  This inspiration will lift your life to a place of true joy!"

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Being Grateful II

One of the first blog's I wrote was on being Grateful, to put yourself in an attitude of gratitude will change your life.  Since this is my last blog before Thanksgiving I thought I would revisit that blog.

Start today by creating a daily practice of writing down things to be grateful for.  This practice will shift your thoughts from the negative things in your life to a more positive outlook.  I have also discovered that the feelings that are attached to the things you are grateful for will continue to show up in your life creating a more joyful life going forward.

I challenge you at this special time of the year to begin this practice & to write down daily at least 5 things that you are grateful for.  Feel the feelings of each of these things & remember those feelings as you write down each item.  These feelings of gratitude will create a change in your environment.  I look at it like a stone thrown into a pond each grateful thought creates ripples that spread out throughout the universe creating good thoughts of gratitude throughout the universe.

Everything begins from within & radiates out to the universe in return the God/universe returns the feelings to you over & over again.  So if you're grateful for the great day you had yesterday, God/universe will send back to you more great days.  The important thing is to begin the process & stick to it.  It can be done fairly quickly & the change in your life will be incredible.

Heidi & I are going to one of our favorite places for Thanksgiving.  The Smokey Mountains, I will try to write a blog on Friday but until then I'm not sure about internet access.  I hope you all have a special day with family & friends.  It's doubly special for me as Thanksgiving this year is also my birthday we are grateful to my Mom & Heidi's parents for giving us the money for our birthdays so we could go on this trip.

Hugs,

Bill

Quote of the day: "Give thanks for the great things in your life.  This state of gratitude will bring you more joy everyday."

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Good & Evil

Is there good & evil in the world?  The easy answer of this question for most of us is a resounding yes!!  But, looking at this question at a deeper level the answer is no!  How can I possibly say that?  Of course there's evil in the world, right?  I believe there are a few things at work in this question; first of all we go back to the need to label.  It's a great comfort for us to say that this good & that is evil.  We need to know that there is evil in the world because we have something to blame for our misfortunes on.

Once we move past the "Labeling" argument we need to look at our true nature.  What is our true nature?  Remember that each one of us is a divine being created by a divine being, all we truly know is to love & be loved.  I know this sounds hard to believe but truly that's all we know from our true nature.  When we are connected to the divine energy that is our soul we are connected to everything in the universe & we feel love.

So why do "evil"/bad things happen?  The reason why things happen that are terrible is because of the EGO.  I wrote a wonderful blog many months ago about the EGO & I like Dr Wayne Dyer's definition for EGO: Edge Out God.  You see that's where we go wrong.  We look for the instant gratification that satisfies the EGO & we loose the connection to our true nature in the process.

The EGO can never be satisfied it always wants more & unfortunately it will do whatever it has to to get what it wants.  So the people that do the things we consider evil are only misguided divine beings.  As we awaken our true nature the world will move to a place of more love & understanding.  Slowly each one of us will learn to stay connected to our soul & thus to everything.  This connection will change the world.  Love is the answer for everything we need.  Will we eliminate evil when this shift begins to happen?  I think the answer to this is no because there will always be people that look for the quick & easy way to get what they believe they want.  My hope is that these people will become less & less important in the world.

Love is the path to everything you can imagine.  Believe in love & work on staying connected to your soul.  The universe will open up to you & your life will be better then even you can imagine.

Till tomorrow,

Bill

Quote of the day: "Love is all we need, if we can move to a place of love we can change the world"

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Life's Mission

Do you know what your Life's purpose is?  Have you set goals & objectives to reach your Life's purpose?  I believe we are all born with our true purpose inside of us.  I think many of us spend our entire life trying to figure out what that purpose is.  We've talked a lot in the past about opening yourself up to God/universe & paying attention to signs that you receive.

I believe most of us struggle with what our true purpose is & finding what really fulfills us can be a real journey of faith.  So often the noise of life gets in our way & the demands of others in our life as well as just getting through day to day, quiets the burning we have deep within us.  We struggle to find the time to examine our own feelings & desires & we let the speed of life catch us up in just getting through.

I know for me, I've struggled my entire life with what I should be doing & how it will make a difference.  I've worked hard on trying to listen to the deepest parts of myself to try & discern 
what my true purpose is.  Here's what I've decided for me; My life is here to serve others & bring as much love & joy into their life as I can.  

I know most of you are saying well that sounds great but how can you do that?  I haven't truly figured that out yet.  That's the other side of your life's purpose, how to make it viable in today's world.  What I do to fill me up is write this blog, try to be a presence of love on twitter & recently I started my video blog.  These activities fulfill my true purpose & help to lift me up everyday, although they don't bring me the work I really need.  I think this is an unfortunate choice many of us need to make. The choice between our true life's purpose & how we can make a living & although this choice may be difficult for us.  I believe that if you fill yourself up with what you feel your life's purpose is whenever you can it's truly better then not doing anything that matters in your life. 

If each of us would take the time to examine our lives & discern what our true life's purpose is; the world would be a better place.  It's not the bold loud steps that are going to make a difference in this world.  They can be wonderful to see & they may even inspire us but the way to make the world a better place to live is for each one us to move to a place of love & understanding in everything we do.

Till Monday, enjoy your weekend.

Bill

Quote of the day: "Take time to discover your true life's mission.  Then move to fill your life with it's true purpose & the world will be a better place."

My next video blog is now available on Youtube.  The subject of this blog is "Forgiveness".  Take a look:  http://bit.ly/32ZLSU


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