Thursday, October 22, 2009

Admitting you're wrong

One of the hardest things for many of us to do is to admit when we're wrong.  The world today is filled with people who have gone out of their way to cover up their mistakes rather then admit them & move on.  This is especially true in the workplace where, for the most part, we are literally afraid to admit we made a mistake. 

Why is it that we can't admit we wrong? Why do we dig in our heels to defend ourselves even when we know in our heart we're wrong.  The number one answer for this is the world we live in today.  We have unfortunately moved away from the idea that trying things out to find what you're good at it or what you want to do is not acceptable anymore.  We now have to be successful immediately.  There is no room in our society to try & fail.  I'm truly not sure if a man like Thomas Edison would have succeeded in the world today.  One of my favorite quotes from him is: "I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work."  can you imagine someone today saying that?

The second reason why we find it difficult to admit when we're wrong is the EGO.  The EGO needs to defend its self regardless of whether it's right or wrong.  In fact it will at times try to crush someone who challenges it, even when it knows it's wrong.  Is this a place to live from?  Is this the way to a more joyful life?  The answer to this, for me, is's a resounding NO!  Everyone makes mistakes, everyone!!  It's part of us being humans.  I have learned in my life to admit when I make a mistake.  In the corporate world I've been met with shock because I've actually admitted a mistake.  Privately some of these people have come to me & said they wish they had the strength to do that.  But the bottom line is in most business environments it's not acceptable to admit a mistake.

I believe strongly in the opening up of the world where we all can be who we are.  We're all not good at the same thing & the truth is that most mistakes can be easily fixed if admitted when they happen.  Let's move forward together to a more accepting & open world not only in our personal lives but also in our business dealings.

The other part of admitting that you made a mistake is to say you're sorry.  There are two parts to this in my mind; The first is forgiving yourself for making a mistake & the second is to ask for forgiveness from the person or people that were affected by your mistake.  I believe if you truly are sincere with saying you're sorry most people will feel that & you'll be able to move past whatever happened.

Be willing to make mistakes, admit them when they happen & ask for forgiveness to move forward in your life.  This process of accepting yourself as you are will open your life to more joy then you can imagine.

Till tomorrow,


Quote of the day: "Be honest with yourself & the others in your life.  Admit when you make a mistake, move past it & onto a more joyful life."


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